Wednesday Wrap Up 11-13
Lovely, touching, and REAL portraits of new moms.
The term “false labor” has always bothered me. If mom is experiencing contractions, if she’s feeling things are happening, it’s really cruel to tell her it is “false” – her body is doing SOMETHING, her experience is very real. Bugs me when it gets dismissed as “false”. And now I read that I’m not the only one who thinks “There’s no such thing as false labor”.
10 different responses when you feel pressured to consent to something that feels wrong. I have always reminded my clients “polite but firm” and most of these can fit that criteria, if delivered in the right tone of voice.
When does your doula’s opinion matter? When does it not matter? Interesting article by Heidi on doulas and their opinions. Lots of food for thought for both parents and doulas.
An interesting discussion of fear and birth. I’ve noticed such a huge trend lately to try and eliminate fear in birth – the whole “Birth Without Fear” phenomenon is huge. This is largely a good thing, and I think we do well to help alleviate the fear when possible. But I worry that it’s come to a point where women are getting the wrong message. They are getting the message that if they are feeling fear, they are doing something wrong. This could not be farther from the truth. I’d like to see more of an emphasis on helping women cope with fear, and less of an emphasis on eliminating fear.
Can I make a bit of a personal appeal here? My friend Kristy, who is a fellow doula I’ve known for over a decade, lost her home in a fire this week. (That’s her on the right there, with one of her postpartum doula clients.) She and her family (she has a newlywed daughter and son in law who have been living with her) could really use some financial help, as their insurance isn’t being all that helpful and they need to find a new place to live while they rebuild. There is a fundraiser for the family here, and if you put THG Match in the comments when you donate, The Healing Group – a local mental health resource for new moms, will match your donation. If you can help at all, please do.
Today’s video is not birth specific but is a good introduction to how to discuss concerns and questions with your doctor:
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The third and final day. After all the learning and all the fun, I am utterly exhausted. And yet I have to present again. First thing in the morning. This time my topic was “Out of the Bayou: Helping Families Navigate the Online Swamp” My roommate and friend was kind enough to attend my session and take a photo of me presenting.
Then it was time for the last session of the conference, a general session featuring Amber McCann: “Today’s Mothers are All Thumbs: Cultural Competency for Digital Motherhood”. She talked about how involved women of childbearing are are in social media and how we can reach them there. She discussed how moms are not searching the internet looking for your childbirth class, they are searching and looking for INFORMATION. Reaching them with that information can be a good way to get the other thing digital moms want: INTERACTION. I’ve highlighted two of my favorite quotes from her session in graphics for this article.



I attended a split session that I had mixed feelings about. The first part was “Birthing Like the Stars” – all about how to use celebrity births in your classes. I’m not one to follow celebrities at all and don’t think I’ll use her ideas much. But the second half “Prenatal Education and the Flipped Classroom” really got ideas flowing for my private childbirth classes, and I am so excited to implement some of the ideas! (And no, I won’t tell you what they are until I get everything in place! But there is a shot of some of my iPad notes on the right…) Christine Maria Just did a fabulous job presenting what she is doing and how it could be implemented. I wish she could have had the full 90 minutes!
After lunch and the Lamaze membership meeting was a session from Melinda Delisle, owner of Pocket Pregnancy. She spoke on “Attracting parents to Childbirth Classes in the Digital Age: What live classes can offer that online classes can’t” – she opened by asking those present why they came to the conference when they could just learn about these topics online. The answers – networking, community, hands on learning, connection to others facing similar challenges – were also many of the benefits of live childbirth classes! The barriers to attending a conference and attending CBE were also similar: time, cost, not valuing the benefits, etc.

The next morning, we had a few hours before the conference started. After a proper southern breakfast, we headed out to explore the city. We walked the length of Bourbon Street, cut over to St. Louis Cathedral, Jackson Square, and the Mississippi River. Grabbed some beignets to go and headed back to the opening session of the conference.
Next was a breakout session on “Memorable Class Moments” led by Victora Deer – I chose this session because I always try to go to sessions that will not involve PowerPoint, and I was not disappointed! When I first walked in and sat down, I knew this would be a different kind of session, as there were lots of craft materials waiting at each spot. The first thing she had us do was put on a pair of head bopper headbands that had light bulbs representing all the ideas we could get if we allow ourselves creative freedom. Victoria showed us some of the fun things she does in class, but she also talked about how YOU can create your own fun ideas. She presented 5 steps:
