If you don’t want it, just say no!

Cartoon woman holding sign that says No Thanks, with cartoon doctor in the background

Warning: Rant ahead! I wrote this years ago – the original version was a little more, um…passionate. I’ve just now toned it down to where I feel comfortable posting it. Still pretty opinionated. This rant doesn’t apply in the least to moms who want exams and get them. This rant is about moms who feel […]

Surfing the Labor Waves

Pregnant woman sitting in ocean waves

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf” This quote (attributed most commonly to Jon Kabat-Zinn but occasionally to others as well) has been commonly used to apply to labor. It is a good one, and one that definitely applies. Last week my husband and I went to California to celebrate our […]

Don’t plan your wedding!!!

I’ve really gotten tired of it. Pregnant women who are planning for a specific kind of birth are told things like: “You know what is so cute? You – when you’re pregnant and think you actually control how things go in the delivery room.” -ScaryMommy “I encourage my clients to create “birth preferences” rather than […]

Wednesday Wrap Up January 20

This is so true, and something I have tried to convey to the women I work with. If you don’t like the care, and it’s not a good fit for what you want, move on. Take your health care dollars elsewhere! Maybe I loved this so much because I can relate, but I really appreciated […]

My favorite moment at births

Newborn looking at mom after birth

There are many things I love about births. I love seeing women be strong and powerful. I love seeing the relationships between partners and the way partners step up and provide just what is needed, or say just the right thing at just the right moment. I love the humorous moments – and a time […]

There’s more than 1 kind of birth doula?

Venn diagram of the three kinds of birth doulas

It’s been at least a decade since I first heard of the concept of birth doulas with different ways of looking at the job, and it has been an interesting concept to consider as I’ve come to know other doulas and mentor new doulas just starting it. I feel it can be a useful concept […]

Epidurals: Are they the only choice?

Lamaze International has a great new infographic out, this one addressed the best current research on epidurals, other options available, and how you can get accurate information on epidural use and policies in your area.

Wednesday Wrap Up Sept 24

Symphysis Pubis dysfunction is a painful (and surprisingly common) complication of pregnancy and can progress to a full on separation. One woman’s experience and some tips for working through that kind of pelvic instability are here. I would recommend a women’s health physical therapist as well as a chiropractor. Fear of labor can be just […]

Wednesday Wrap Up August 13

No one, NO ONE, has the right to decide for a woman if her birth was traumatic or not. My Traumatic Birth, According to Me One of the frustrations about living in Utah. People are so afraid of seeing women’s bodies they do things like call the police over a breastfeeding booth at the Farmer’s […]

Wednesday Wrap Up July 30

For two out of my three pregnancies, I chose not to find out if my baby was a boy or a girl. I *loved* the anticipation of not knowing and the moment of surprise at the birth. (For the third, I let my husband get his way and find out. Naturally, he refused to believe […]