The very end of pregnancy

As I wait for this month-that-has-felt-unending to finally end, I have been thinking a lot about the last little while of pregnancy. It, too, can feel like it’s not going to end. But I promise you, it will! First off, let’s talk about how to deal with those annoying people who keep asking you if […]

If you don’t want it, just say no!

Cartoon woman holding sign that says No Thanks, with cartoon doctor in the background

Warning: Rant ahead! I wrote this years ago – the original version was a little more, um…passionate. I’ve just now toned it down to where I feel comfortable posting it. Still pretty opinionated. This rant doesn’t apply in the least to moms who want exams and get them. This rant is about moms who feel […]

When birth does not go as you’d hoped…

New mom depressed

Can you think of anything worse to say to a mom who is opening up about feelings of disappointment or pain after a difficult birth? I can’t. The unsaid subtext mom hears goes something like this: “Just be glad you have a healthy baby. Any other emotions you have don’t count. There is only one […]

Surfing the Labor Waves

Pregnant woman sitting in ocean waves

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf” This quote (attributed most commonly to Jon Kabat-Zinn but occasionally to others as well) has been commonly used to apply to labor. It is a good one, and one that definitely applies. Last week my husband and I went to California to celebrate our […]

Packing for labor

Pregnant person with suitcase

I know there are LOTS of lists out there for what to pack for labor, but I wanted to post my own. If you’re planning a hospital birth or a birth center birth, this list is for you! (One nice thing about home birth is you don’t need to pack…) You won’t need EVERYTHING on […]

To tweet, or not to tweet? Social media during labor

Partner taking picture of mom and new baby

Most people would not dream of streaming their birth live on the internet or inviting strangers to be there as a piece of performance art. But just how public and immediate should your birth story be? With social media, it’s easy to have an audience of friends and family waiting for the minute by minute […]

The Birth Plan of ACTION!!

You can find boatloads of information out there on birth plans. But most of them miss what I consider to be the most important part: Putting The Plan Into ACTION! I consider there to be 4 steps in writing a birth plan: Researching your options Deciding what is important to you and what you want […]

Open letter to family supporting laboring moms

Letter for labor partners, with partner providing hip pressure in background

This letter was one I wrote to my brother-in-law when my sister was expecting her first baby over a decade ago. I recently found it saved on my computer and thought it would make an excellent blog post. It has tips that would help just about any friend or family member supporting a laboring mom […]

The Culture of Risk

Pregnant person talking with doctor

“It’s just not worth the risk”“I don’t want to expose my baby to ANY risk!”“I’m not comfortable with any risks” I hear these comments, and others like it, all the time. Unfortunately, they’re just not realistic. Risk is all around us, and it’s an unavoidable part of life. But in this culture of fear mongering […]

Wednesday Wrap Up January 20

This is so true, and something I have tried to convey to the women I work with. If you don’t like the care, and it’s not a good fit for what you want, move on. Take your health care dollars elsewhere! Maybe I loved this so much because I can relate, but I really appreciated […]