The very end of pregnancy

As I wait for this month-that-has-felt-unending to finally end, I have been thinking a lot about the last little while of pregnancy. It, too, can feel like it’s not going to end. But I promise you, it will! First off, let’s talk about how to deal with those annoying people who keep asking you if […]

If you don’t want it, just say no!

Cartoon woman holding sign that says No Thanks, with cartoon doctor in the background

Warning: Rant ahead! I wrote this years ago – the original version was a little more, um…passionate. I’ve just now toned it down to where I feel comfortable posting it. Still pretty opinionated. This rant doesn’t apply in the least to moms who want exams and get them. This rant is about moms who feel […]

Packing for labor

Pregnant person with suitcase

I know there are LOTS of lists out there for what to pack for labor, but I wanted to post my own. If you’re planning a hospital birth or a birth center birth, this list is for you! (One nice thing about home birth is you don’t need to pack…) You won’t need EVERYTHING on […]

To tweet, or not to tweet? Social media during labor

Partner taking picture of mom and new baby

Most people would not dream of streaming their birth live on the internet or inviting strangers to be there as a piece of performance art. But just how public and immediate should your birth story be? With social media, it’s easy to have an audience of friends and family waiting for the minute by minute […]

The Culture of Risk

Pregnant person talking with doctor

“It’s just not worth the risk”“I don’t want to expose my baby to ANY risk!”“I’m not comfortable with any risks” I hear these comments, and others like it, all the time. Unfortunately, they’re just not realistic. Risk is all around us, and it’s an unavoidable part of life. But in this culture of fear mongering […]

Don’t plan your wedding!!!

I’ve really gotten tired of it. Pregnant women who are planning for a specific kind of birth are told things like: “You know what is so cute? You – when you’re pregnant and think you actually control how things go in the delivery room.” -ScaryMommy “I encourage my clients to create “birth preferences” rather than […]

Wednesday Wrap Up January 20

This is so true, and something I have tried to convey to the women I work with. If you don’t like the care, and it’s not a good fit for what you want, move on. Take your health care dollars elsewhere! Maybe I loved this so much because I can relate, but I really appreciated […]

My favorite moment at births

Newborn looking at mom after birth

There are many things I love about births. I love seeing women be strong and powerful. I love seeing the relationships between partners and the way partners step up and provide just what is needed, or say just the right thing at just the right moment. I love the humorous moments – and a time […]

There’s more than 1 kind of birth doula?

Venn diagram of the three kinds of birth doulas

It’s been at least a decade since I first heard of the concept of birth doulas with different ways of looking at the job, and it has been an interesting concept to consider as I’ve come to know other doulas and mentor new doulas just starting it. I feel it can be a useful concept […]

Epidurals: Are they the only choice?

Lamaze International has a great new infographic out, this one addressed the best current research on epidurals, other options available, and how you can get accurate information on epidural use and policies in your area.